MORE FULFILLING SEXUAL EXPERIENCE
by Ross Bannister Todd
January 11, 2011
Who doesn't want a more fulfilling sexual experience? Most people believe that the problem is their sex partner not being "something" enough. They don't see that judging is a mental activity and all mental competes with or blocks you fully experiencing your physical senses. In other words: WHILE YOU ARE THINKING YOU CAN'T FEEL AS MUCH. Judging, guilt, shame, fantasy is all thinking which reduces your sensual experience or what the sex feels like.
In addition a noisy mind (thinking) reduces the size and duration of orgasm. Orgasm is the spiritual component of physical ejaculation (both male and female). For example if you meditate and therefore know how to quiet your "chatter/ego" mind and do that during sex, you will have bigger orgasms. If you also learn how to have an orgasm without ejaculation, you can have multiple orgasms (men too). Because you do not expend/drain all your energy ejaculating. Yes, bigger orgasms are possible without ejaculation. Ejaculation not only drains your energy but is unhealthy especially for older men.
Orgasms are further improved by establishing a spiritual connection with your partner. This again requires a quiet mind and the ability to focus almost completely on your sensual experience without having chatter/thoughts in your head. It is also important to let go of waiting for your climax (ejaculation). You need to forget about climax and be completely in the present, fully accepting and therefore enjoying the present experience.
Tantra techniques are frequently used to facilitate the results listed above. It is not necessary to practice Tantra to use the techniques to improve your sex life.
TRUE LOVE
There is another level to sexual enjoyment and that is when it is used as an expression of love. However, the love does not come from the sexual experience itself, it comes from the people and their willingness to love, be loving, express love, and experience love. However, this is not conditional ego "love" which is not true love and in fact is usually only lust gift wrapped and labeled love. True love requires an understanding of responsibility, the responsibility that you are the source of your love not another, not someone outside of your body. You cannot "get love" from another you can only allow it to come from deep inside you into your experience. But we humans usually then attribute this experience of love to the person, place or thing in front of us. Which the perpetuates the myth that love comes from outside us.
When one is experiencing love and another person is experiencing love (strangers or mates) and they get together and share love it expands. If they do this while having sex it can become a gateway to the divine. This is a lot of what the purpose of Tantra is about. This is where orgasm can last much longer then minutes and it can also be a full body experience not just localized in the genitals.
For more information please see www.think perfect.com or contact Ross Bannister Todd at tantrasexcoach@gmail.com
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Monday, January 3, 2011
sex sex sex sex
by Ross Bannister Todd
www.ThinkPerfect.com
Sex is deeply embedded in our culture, not just the act of having sex but a lot goes in to what happens before sex.
We go to the gym to have a great body, we buy clothes that either show off our body or hide it, we groom it, pay the plastic surgeon to change things, do diets, hair cuts, hair removal, etc, this all has to do with looking good and looking attractive so we can attract a mate and or sex.
Many people only have friends that look like people they are attracted to, they don't even socialize with people that do not appear attractive to them.
For some people the chase is all there is. It motivates their entire life, yet some of these same people may not even admit this to themselves, or to anyone else. they are in denial about their motivation, they may even talk down sex, are sexaphobic or homophobic. Many homosexuals are homophobic because that is what the culture has taught them and they haven't seen through it yet.
We need sexual energy, it is an integral part of our life force. When we put it down, dislike it, make it wrong we are actually crippling ourselves. There is NOTHING BAD WITH OR ABOUT SEX.
Unless you are projecting your negative, judgmental energy onto sex and pretending that dark energy is coming from sex. Loving sex is rejuvenating, uplifting, energizing, orgasmic and healing. Unless you are guilting or judging yourself while you are having or after you have just had sex, which then taints your experience, makes sex unhealthy, changes the energy of sex and CAUSES disease. guilt puts holes in your immune system that allows disease to enter. It is not the sex that is dirty it is your thoughts, your mind, your intentions, what you are projecting onto sex.
People that have no guilt about sex seldom get any kind of sexual disease, even when they have sex with someone that has something.
'WE COME FROM SEX" as Osho point out in his book"SEX MATTERS". Our culture/society in the USA says that SEX IS BAD. If you believe something is bad and you do it anyway, it will make you sick. If you take a pill and believe it is bad, it will make you sick. Take the same pill and believe, trust, decide it is good for you and it will not make you sick. I have taught this to many clients who were getting sick from their HIV meds. As soon as they really decided their medicine was good, ok, was NOT poison they stopped getting sick in most cases.
Next time we ill look more at the role of Tantra and non-mental sex.
Love yourself first because if you don't you can't give love to anyone else - its not selfish your body needs it to be healthy.
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